I’m my self help phase of the year so please bear with it, lol…..
I was reading one of those self help books, just a random one I picked up because I thought the title was interesting, and I’m in the early half of the book and one of the things it wrote about was utilising visualisation the wrong way.
Adults (i.e me) tend to use it to visualise things that goes wrong w/ our lives; what did I do wrong, what could have I done better, what are the things that can go wrong?
I am especially guilty of this, the examples I’ve mentioned above are scenarios that I’ve visualised to death, over and over again, the same scenario some times -like me visualising the same scene over and over again would fix the issue/problem.
My brain would be so wired about it that sometimes that I couldn’t even go to sleep – hard as I try without resorting to drugs, even sometimes with drugs (I’ve downed sleeping pills at one point and still, my brain would just not let it go), I wouldn’t be able to fall asleep due to my over analysing.
Recently with my associate, he’s been down because of life issues and he wears his heart on his sleeve so he’s especially having a difficult time coping with it, so hard that it’s affecting his work (which also affects my work since our individual workload affects one another). I don’t really care about the work aspect but that’s the only way I can measure how well he is so when he is feeling good, everything is running smoothly – when he is not on the ball, he is not on the ball.
Anyways, the point is he is living in a personal hell right now – if I go mental over things sometimes but my personality is very straight to the point, logic, I-Robot, etc – he’s very emotional, Latin lover type, so he’s feeling it 2-3x worse that I, and I can’t help him since his personality is like that and probably the only way is to drown in w/ booze, which would not help his case at the moment.
These things are subjective, case by case basis, I can tell you the techniques I use to cope with my “mental” instabilities but overall, the key is acknowledging that there is a mental problem and slowly cope and deal with it, start trying to fix it slowly but surely, and when there’s a setback, don’t get bend out of shape and keep at it.
A healthy mind, is a healthy body & spirit.